Friday, 25 January 2013
Friends, I now have a Nanny ( I refuse to call her house-help cos she is basically here to help Princess and not me.) So I am allowed to be lazy for a couple of weeks ( whenever I want to), that she will be with me. Breakfast in bed started the mornings.....beautiful. The thought of all that I have dreamed of doing if only I had an extra hand is all coming to me. What a wonderful world mine is becoming. Gosh! Tomorrow is Saturday! Yipppy! I am officially on public holiday, hehehehe. I love this life! I mean, I can be in bed for most of the morning and be rest assured that Princess is being looked after while I just lie down there is bed. Wonderful. Please, don't blame me for sounding like this, its been rough having to do so many things all at the same time by myself. And just when I want to little time to myself, I have to attend to a call her her Ladyship with "Mum, I need you to have a look at this for me". I get no quiet time in the mornings except that time she is off to bed. But that is not enough. SO you see, I am not going to be dealing with any guilt anymore at least for now, until further notice. This brings me to the main gist here. This image here was gotten from a friend's DP (display picture on her Blackberry). I liked it and decided to use it as my DP too. Little did I know that I was going to be getting some instant disapproval from my concerned friends. By the way, I am Proud of who I am but obviously my married girlfriend from way back when we were kids wasn't comfortable with it and she had to ping me continuously to 'address" the issue. She sent me a message "please don't be" "This is Africa"! What? I couldn't put it together. What was she talking about? I went "Huh"?. She replied, "Your display name of course" I asked her " What has Africa got to do with it? Goodness! She went on to explain. There is absolutely nothing ethically wrong with being a single the world over but here in Africa, there is everything wrong" For Real? Now I was more curious to hear her enlighten me. She continued, "First, the stigmatization. Secondly, Low self worth. Thirdly, Social , emotional strangulation and a host of others. My dear, this is the society we have found ourselves. Friends, I love my girlfriend and she is educated, sound and a good wife. Do I share her opinion? Do you agree with her on this? DO you really believe our society has left single moms to our fate because it is "Africa" ? It got me.I am not going to accept what the society thinks of my status as a Single mother and doing something about it for me is just the right step I am taking. I want to thank ZEAL who is a proud single mother too and is doing something about it as she has dedicated a song in her next forth coming album to single mothers in Nigeria, Africa and the world over. "IF I were to be ashamed of my choices, I wouldn't be Ritty - SingleNaijaMum! Do have a lovely weekend
Monday, 21 January 2013
I am at a point when I am opened to a lot of emotional challenges and find myself being there for people to want to share their hurts and pains with me. Do I have my own loads of baggage? Of course I do, who doesn't. Do I cry these pains away? I wish. I am sharing this, I hope to get answers that might just be helping someone who is hurting too. A friend, MIU, posted it.
Friday, 18 January 2013
I have been blogging for a little over a year now and I have come to know a few friends. Some I have known before now and others , while here on Blogville. One of such wonderful ladies is @Che, (Naija Bank Girl, now CEO, Revampdefinition)
Friday, 11 January 2013
It is a common read on most site/forums, newpapers of predictions for 2013 for individuals, the nation, the world at large by some very prominent and others not so prominent Pastors, Bishops, GOs and Men of God. Even individuals are not left out. I am not against any of these, not at all.I have read as many of them as possible. Nothing bad in knowing what the future holds jare. I came across a write up that is in line with all of these predictions, resolutions and it got me thinking. Yeah, even me! I know I told myself that I wasn't going to be all wrapped up with the phobia of writing new year resolutions ( some that I get to forget before May of same year). Now, did I say finding love or positioning myself to be found by love could be something I should give a thought this year? Hmmm. Maybe, lol.
Tuesday, 8 January 2013
A typical example is this one by K. Morris, Mom Con. The story is about Anita Henry, a hard-working, single mom trying to launch her own business after losing her job. The only problem is a nasty lawsuit charging her with stealing secrets from her ex-employer.
Corporate espionage? Please. Her single greatest offense was a fashion felony. But when a shady court ruling forces Anita to cease and desist, she’s determined to set things right.
Her plan involves launching the hippest night spot in town, but can she work her scheme while juggling her brother the musician, who likes her couch just a little too much; his manager, who’s prone to some sketchy accounting practices; an ex-husband who can’t seem to remember those child support payments; and an old flame who wouldn't mind heating things up again?
Would you want a copy? Giveaways.................
Mom Con, Published December 2nd 2012 by Axe Publishing
Thursday, 3 January 2013
Its was a year like no other but I am still around, that means only one thing in my book right now.....I am a Survivor.
Against all odds, I conquered death! I didnt let the many times that I was so low in life to make me take my life.
I decided to heal, I began exhaling more via blogging. I am getting there.
To everyone who stood by me throughout this past year, I want to say a very big thank you. I am not yet there yet so please don't leave me now. There is still much work to do to get me all 'cleaned' up to be that woman, mother I know I am meant, created to be.
Do I have any new year resolutions? Hmmm, I should but I am still a work-in-progress, working it out daily, committing it all into the Master's hand. That's a better resolution.
Love you all plenty
Happy New Year
Ritty n Princess